BETRAYAL IQ

Sexual betrayal by a spouse can be one of the most painful crucibles any couple can experience. Whether the betrayal comes in the form of hidden pornography use, sexual or emotional affairs, prostitutes, or more, the impacts upon a spouse can be devastating.

While we have re-engineered the findings of my research to help prevent individuals and couples from experiencing the pain of betrayal, it is important to note that it is a very serious and real issue. Therefore, we are including my research and resources here for those who need access to help.

Listen Learn & Love - Understanding and Navigating Betrayal Trauma

The Impact of Betrayal on a Partner’s Identity with Dr. Heidi Hastings

Catholics Fight Porn Podcast - 5 Stages of Betrayal and Self Development

Help for Loving Relationships: 5 Stages in Healing from Betrayal Trauma

Watch for my coming book to bring the findings of my research to the women who have been betrayed and those who support them.


As the author of the Stages of Betrayal and Self Development model, I have also published academic articles on the impact of a spouse’s problematic pornography use on religious women’s sexuality, religiosity and spirituality, and identity and agency.

Women’s experience with religion and spirituality when perceiving their husband’s pornography use as problematic: A qualitative study →

by Heidi F. Hastings, Rebecca Lucero Jones & Catherine Dutton

Influence of a Partner’s Pornography Consumption on a Christian Woman’s Sexuality: A Qualitative Exploration →

by Heidi F. Hastings & Rebecca Lucero Jones

The Impact of a Partner’s Problematic Pornography Use on a Religious Woman: A Constructivist Grounded Theory Exploration →

by Heidi F. Hastings

RESOURCES

  • From Crisis to Connection
    with Geoff & Jody Steurer

    Porn, Betrayal, Sex & The Experts
    with Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman

    Betrayal Recovery Radio
    by Carol the Coach

    Fight for Love
    with Rosie Makinney

  • Soundscapes for Betrayal Trauma Healing
    by Dr. Jill Manning

    Beating Betrayal Playlist
    by Dr. Jill Manning

  • The Body Keep the Score: Brain, Mind & Body in the Healing of Trauma
    by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

    Unleashing Your Power: Moving Through the Trauma of Partner Betrayal
    by Carol Juergensen Sheets

    Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal
    by Dr. Kevin Skinner

    Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal
    by Dr. Sheri Keffer

  • Worth: Women of Rebirth
    Online support groups for women impacted by betrayal trauma from pornography or infidelity. Facilitated by therapists. Need-based free options.

    Bloom for Women
    Healing from betrayal trauma. Unlimited free access to course library, self-guided assignments, courses & workbooks. Paid online coaching services.

    Daily Disciplines
    A Christ-centered online recovery tool for anyone looking for sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing.


    Pure Desire Ministries
    Lives and relationships are being destroyed by unwanted sexual behavior. Pure Desire offers clinical counseling and support groups so that you can break free, heal relationships and live in sexual health.

    Infidelity Survivors Anonymous
    A support group for individuals who have experienced infidelity-induced trauma caused by any form of sexual betrayal in their primary relationship(s). Women can participate if they have experienced any type of infidelity and can be of any religious background.

    Betrayal Trauma Recovery (BTR)
    BTR group sessions are affordable and online every day, with no need to schedule or wait for an appointment.


    The Sarah Society
    The Sarah Society is a safe place for Christian women to share their stories of how a loved one’s sex addiction has affected their sense of self, their relationships/marriages, their children and their outlook on the world.


    Navigate Betrayal
    The Navigate Betrayal online program is a powerful resource designed to help you integrate the Catholic faith and cutting-edge brain science in your healing from sexual betrayal trauma. You will learn how to travel the three routes to healing on the road to recovery.


    Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints: Spouse & Family Support for General Addiction
    Women can attend this group for a spouse, child, or parent with an addiction of any kind and don’t have to say what or who the addiction/addict is. Instead, the group focuses on accessing the Savior’s healing power through 12 steps.

  • Dr. Jill Manning
    Free and paid digital downloads from Dr. Jill Manning, a therapist who specializes in working with individuals impacted by sexual addiction, pornography, or betrayal trauma in their primary relationship. Jill is one of the foremost advocates for anti-pornography policy

Facing betrayal can be incredibly tough, but you don't have to go through it alone. Outlined below are some betrayal support resources that offer compassionate guidance, practical advice, and a community of understanding for individuals and couples. Whether you need professional counseling, support groups, or self-help materials, there are tools out there to help you heal and move forward.